Oh, the comfort - the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person - having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away. ~Dinah Craik, A Life for a Life, 1859
The majority of my clients come to me with some sort of relationship issue or challenge. Sometimes it may take the form of a challenge in a romantic relationship, or with parents or siblings, other times people come to me with issues around friends or work colleagues. Simply put I have found that relationships are the mirror to show us that which we have yet to love in ourselves. I can promise you if you can't yet love it in another, you can't love it in yourself either.
Most of our challenges in relationships are usually not about what we think they are about. The fights, rifts, dramas and hurts are rarely the first time you have experienced this pain. They are usually re-runs of past encounters and you deal with them using the sub-conscious scripting that you downloaded in childhood. Helpful as it may have been at the time you downloaded this scripting and made it part of your automatic response, as a fully grown adult, a tantrum or running away and hiding may not be the most supportive behaviour to fall back on.
Working with my clients we get to the heart of the situation and can really see not only what is going on currently in their lives but also the underlying sub conscious scripting that is running their response mechanisms. Once we have uncovered these blocks and limiting sub conscious scripts there are simple practices to clear out all that no longer is needed and re-script new supportive behaviours and patterns which enables your system to come back into balance and harmony with itself and those around you.
Then we can go about the fun task of creating the relationships you truly want to attract... ones filled with love, laughter, compassion and support to name but a few.
One of the most transforming and healing practices I have in my toolbox is the PSYCH- K Relationship Balance. This balance takes around an hour works on a deep sub-conscious level to clear away all of the disturbances you may feel within a specific relationship, be that with a partner, parent, friend or even with yourself! This balance, works on the premise of getting both the hemisphere's of your brain into a coherent state thus enabling you to stay whole brained and able to remain un-triggered no matter what the other person may or may not be saying or doing.
I would highly recommend this balance, as I know from experience those that we love the most are usually our best teachers. And even though they may be showing us what it is we have yet to accept and love in ourselves there is no need to suffer through this learning.